The Husband Store

Have you heard the joke about the husband store? It goes
like this-the husband store exists of four levels. Those
seeking a husband can go to it and select their ideal
partner.

The males are there of their own free will; they want to be
chosen as husbands. There are no charges for selecting one
of the males in the husband store. In using the store there
is just one rule. Everyone entering it proceeds upwards
level by level from the ground floor once they leave a
particular floor they may not choose one of the men on that
floor only one of those from the floors above.

In other words having rejected the available males on level
one the husband seeker on reaching level two cannot change
her mind and decide to choose one of them.

A husband seeker enters the building and sees a notice on
the first level.It says "the men on this level are not bad
looking, earn £20,000 per year, can tolerate kids and
will do housework occasionally". The husband seeker
proceeds to the next level.

Here the notice reads, " the men on this level are
physically attractive, they earn £35,000 per year,
quite like kids and will make the effort to do housework
about twice a week.

She proceeds on to level three. Here she sees a notice
proclaiming" the men on this level are very attractive,
they earn £50,000 a year, love kids and will happily
do their share of housework. Our husband seeker proceeds on
to the next level and finds it empty.

A divorced male at my speakers group told this joke. He
probably felt that there was no pleasing women when it came
to choosing husbands. Interestingly as he told the joke I
imagined myself walking through the husband store. I
decided to stop at level three.

The obvious point of the joke was that women are
unrealistic when it comes to choosing life partners. I
don't believe that most of us are.

The man that I totally love and share my life with is
untidy. He leaves piles of newspapers on the kitchen table
and piles of socks in the bedroom. He is kind, loving and
thoughtful to name just three of his many good qualities.

I'll live with the piles of newspapers and socks. My point
is this it's important to know what small imperfections we
are prepared to live with in a life partner and what
serious faults we simply won't tolerate.

I've certainly met women who confuse the two. For example
my client Rachel who complained that her boyfriend of a few
weeks did not dress as she would like when they went on
dates. In particular she complained about him having holes
in his socks. She then went on to say that he was unwilling
to take any responsibility for contraception although
pregnancy at this stage in their relationship would have
been a disaster.

My friend Lisa also confused trivial flaws with serious
ones when it came to boyfriends. She complained that her
boyfriend of a few months often wanted to stop for tea when
they went out for a day trip or long walk. He was
considerably older than Lisa who was at the time in her
early thirties. This could explain why he felt the need to
sit down more frequently or he may have just had different
ideas about how to enjoy himself on a day out. She then
went on to say that she "thought that he was seeing other
women behind her back although she treated the relationship
as an exclusive one"

These two women were clearly confusing trivial differences
which could be discussed and resolved or even accommodated
with totally unacceptable attitudes and behaviour. To have
happy relationships we need to know the difference.

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Ladies do you want to learn more about the opposite sex and
having happy relationships. Eileen is a psychologist
therapist who helps women just like you to do so. You can
claim your copy of her free " Love Magnet" report by
emailing eileen@eileenedwards.co.uk. See also our website
http://www.eileenedwards.co.uk

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