Out of all the questions I'm emailed, there is one that
continues to surface...
"What is the most important skill to develop in pickup?"
I believe the very nature of this question is problematic.
It suggests that there is a quick fix to our dating
problems and that's simply not the case.
If there is one thing I've discovered in my trainings, it
is this: Powerful pickup techniques can certainly help a
client, but not NEARLY as much as identifying and
eliminating previously existing bad habits.
Most of the time the client is not aware of these habits,
and it requires some real work on my part just to convince
them that they exist in the first place.
This is also what I believe is wrong with most of the
pickup training or dating tips for guys out there...It
teaches a methodology or system without taking into account
the individual hangups that the client most certainly has.
The unique training I've developed with Dr. Robert Epstein
(one of the most respected psychologists in the world) not
only presents a comprehensive pickup system to master, but
the exercises are individually tailored to each client.
Now before I get too sale-sy, you should know that I'm
actually making a point here:
The most important pickup skill you can develop is to
become more aware of your own bad habits...and come up with
effective solutions to help get rid of them.
In other words, you can master every damn dating tips for
men and pickup technique that you want... but if every time
you open you mouth, flecks of saliva spray her in the
face... you've pretty much failed no matter what.
Now, of course there are many other skills and dating
advice that one could argue are 'the most important.'
For example, we are very big on relaxation here... Giving
every client an arsenal of invisible ways to minimize
stress in tough situations is essential.
But there is one other skill that I feel deserves
mention...In fact, this is the skill that in my
not-so-humble opinion separates the men from the boys in
the dating game:
The ability to cope with resistance.
Lets face it, most of us have had an easy lay at one point
or another. Hopefully you know what I'm talking about...It
was just ON...You liked her, she liked you, you were horny,
so was she... Escalation to sex was as smooth as butter.
This kind of lay doesn't impress me at all.
Not that I turn it down when it happens, of course;)
What impresses me is how a client performs in the face of
real resistance. In other words, she is blocking your
attempts to push the relationship forward. Oftentimes this
resistance is a result of a mistake you might have made.
And we all make mistakes, so get used to it.
The best seductions I've ever done were always the ones
where I made a critical error...and was able to recover.
So the next time you screw up on an approach or a date,
remember that it is actually an incredible opportunity to
see if you can bounce back...
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