Dating for us geeks is better than ever. Geek is chic and
we no longer have to hide the passion for our nerdy habits.
We can express ourselves confidently and still get the
girl. However there are some things we tend to do that turn
women off. Here is a list of the top ten dating mistakes us
geeks make.
1 ) Over-Explaining
I remember when a girl asked me how is Bio-Diesel made when
I told her I use it in my car. I think I went on for close
to fifteen minutes explaining from start to finish the
process from turning vegetable oil into Bio-Diesel. She
finally stopped me and teased me pretty hard for it. Your
date may not find it as endearing.
2 ) Being Condescending
Just because we know a lot about a lot of things never
gives us the right to make someone feel stupid. Sometimes
simply just taking a moment to ask "How familiar are you
with it?" before explaining it as if they were five years
old will allow you to save face.
3 ) Know-it-all/always being right
It is hard being smarter than everyone around us (at least
we think we are). As soon as I learned to try to see
someone else's point of view fully before explaining my
opinion it was a lot more comfortable to be around me. Try
to see someone else's side of things first and relate to it.
4 ) Fashion – Tennis shoes all the time
If you are the guy who wears white tennis shoes in every
situation, it is time to go shopping. Buy yourself some
nicer shoes for work or casual social events. You don't
have to go crazy but even some more trendy sneakers will go
a long way. Sketchers make lots of inexpensive shoes that
are as comfortable as tennis shoes but are a little bit
more fashionable. You could even branch out and try some
more fashionable going out shoes or boots. Just make sure
they aren't too out there if that is not your personality.
Women do notice shoes.
5 ) Fashion – Wearing clothes that don't fit
It is time to stop dressing like the clothes were
hand-me-downs. Oversize shirts do not hide your gut or your
lack of biceps. The shoulder seam of your shirts should be
within an inch of the corner of your shoulder, not down on
your arm. Pants should not be baggy; while they shouldn't
be skin tight they should fit well without being too
constrictive. Ask a sales woman to help you find sizes that
fit and try going too small and too big to understand what
the right fit is.
6 ) Fashion – Out of date clothes
Wearing a t-shirt or sweatshirt that was your parting gift
from high school is not a statement of loyalty; it's a
statement that you are too lazy to buy new clothes once in
a while. Retire your clothes if they are out of date. I
usually try to not wear clothes longer than one to two
years and sometimes three if I don't wear them that often.
Subtle changes over a few years actually show up and while
people may not point it out, it makes you look dated.
7 ) Texting or emailing while talking
I have a bad habit of surfing the web when talking to
friends and even women. If you are having a conversation,
put down the game, the phone, the email, etc. Pay attention
and be in the conversation
8 ) Being defensive when teased
Roll with the punches. Go read a bit about the improv idea
"yes and," and learn how to be more playful and flirty.
9 ) Asking for feedback on a date
This is a big one. Don't ever ask how you are doing on a
date. Don't ask whether she likes you or not or if she is
having fun. Nothing shows more insecurity then checking in
frequently on a date. Have fun and enjoy your time
together. If she is not into you, or not having fun, that
is her responsibility to end the date or tell you. It only
makes it awkward for you to ask. If she says no, what are
you going to do about it? Getting to the second date will
tell you more than any answer she gives you.
10 ) Self Deprecating
Comedians are great at self deprecating humor. Leave it for
them to do. While you shouldn't be bragging, conversely
don't put yourself down. It shows a lot of insecurity. I
mean honestly when a woman tells me she is fat, I almost
want to smack her. It is like fishing for a compliment, I
don't want to pander to her insecurities. You shouldn't
make women feel that way either by putting yourself down.
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