Most men will experience some hesitation in asking you out.
Why? Because you might say "no" which could be a blow to
his ego. So he will probably talk around the subject by
asking if you have seen a certain film or eaten in a
particular restaurant.
The important thing here is to show interest. For example "
I haven't seen xyz film but I've heard its had good reviews
I would definitely like to see it". Or "Yes I did see it,
I thought that it was so good that I could see it again".
Or "I did see it, did you"? Depending on his answer "what
did you think of it"? "Did you know that the same director
has made abc film which is currently showing locally"? This
obviously gives your potential date a lead into asking you
out.
Be popular to be popular- Have you ever noticed how the
busy restaurant or hairstylist attracts even more
customers? When looking for a place to eat in an unfamiliar
town most people select the full restaurant rather than the
half empty one? Psychologists call this the law of social
proof. It's about being popular to be popular. Which is why
its easier to get a boyfriend when you already have one.
What I am going to suggest sounds counter intuitive, in
other words it won't sound right but it does work. The next
time you are invited on a date at short notice be busy.
Ideally you won't just be saying this then sitting at home
alone, you will be living the life of a successful single.
In other words you'll have friends and interests outside
dating. You'll enjoy cosy evenings at home alone but only
when you want to. If he is interested he will ask you out
again. In fact he will probably immediately suggest another
time for you to meet. Do make it clear that you are
interested in spending time with him, assuming of course
that you are.
Just don't be too available as this devalues time spent
with you. If all else fails and you are really interested
ask him out. You could invite him to a friend's dinner
party. If she isn't planning one perhaps you could ask her
to as a favour and offer to do the same for her in return.
Or have a spare ticket to the opera or a Man United game
which ever is likely to be of most interest to him.
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Eileen went from disaster to success in her relationships
by using the insights of psychology. Now qualified as a
psychologist she is passionate about helping other women to
do the same.Want to learn more about being successful in
dating and relationships? You can claim Eileen's free Love
Magnet report, simply email her at
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