Our confidence is one of the most attractive traits we can
express. That confidence is what makes people attracted to
us and want to spend time with us. It is hard not to have a
hit to your confidence when you are currently unemployed or
underemployed.
"What will women think of dating a guy with no job? Maybe I
should go live in my Mom's basement and complete the
scenario!"
"I read so many online profiles where women are demanding
that a guy they are dating has a job! What should I do hide
under a rock until I find work again?"
Get out of the mindset that an eligible guy has to have a
job and if you don't you aren't attractive to a woman.
1. Women want a man who has ambitions more than just a job.
Having a job is not about how much money you make for most
women, it is a signal that you are not lazy and have
ambition. If you are taking a bit of time off before you
look for another job that is a great thing. If you are
sitting in your PJ's till two in the afternoon playing
video games, maybe they are right! If nothing else take a
class in something to tighten up your job skills. Going
back to school or getting more training is one of the best
excuses for being unemployed
2. Be upbeat about your situation.
Women want men who are strong and confident enough to fill
that cultural role of provider/protector. This does not
necessarily mean making enough money. Most of the time it
can be demonstrated simply by having a good attitude and a
plan to get through hard times. Don't dwell on it in
conversation and paint it in a positive light.
3. Be creative about how you explain your unemployment.
Learn the art of spin, and make your situation seem like an
opportunity rather than an unfortunate event.
"I have the best job in the world right now, I get to sleep
in, don't have to report to anyone, and I make my own
schedule. My extended vacation has been fantastic, noting
beats the time between career moves!"
"I have always felt like I can do so much more than what I
did in my last position, now I have a real opportunity to
be selective and enter the career I have always wanted
instead of something that I just fell into."
"Although I am between positions at the moment it has
actually been a fantastic experience, I never knew I could
spin my experience to fit so may different job choices. I
have been seeking out all sorts of interesting careers I
would have never imagined before this."
4. Stay Busy!
The worst thing you can do is tighten down your outings too
much. As much as you need to pay for food and rent, your
social sustenance is just as important to keeping your
confidence up! Join a class, start a hobby, and go out with
friends as much as you can. Keep your budgeting in mind but
don't fall into a trap of crawling into a hole till you get
a job. The more you stay busy the higher your confidence
will stay. Take this time to do some travel or even a road
trip and you will have a ton to talk about on a date.
5. Go on more creative cheaper dates!
First dates should be more low-key. There is no reason to
buy expensive dinners for every date. Try going to coffee
or drinks for the first date. It puts way less pressure on
both you and her, and you can easily end it short if it
isn't going well as a bonus.
For second dates try something fun like a hike with a
bottle of wine hidden in your backpack to share at the top.
Try some plastic wine glasses from an event supply store
for an added touch that are easier to carry and higher
class than drinking straight from the bottle.
Grab a star gazer's book and learn a few constellations for
an evening picnic on a warm night.
Check out a museum or a free concert/festival in you area.
Third date I usually invite her over for a dinner I cooked,
if she seems a bit hesitant offer to go to her place and
cook her dinner. At some point in the dating process women
expect dinner, no reason it can't be lower cost and more
memorable as well.
Being unemployed has become a common thing with this
economy. You can either let it defeat you or use it as an
opportunity to have more time for dating, doing new things,
and finding what and who you want in your life. Good luck
on your job search, just remember to keep your social life
a priority too. A supportive social circle will keep you
happy through the toughest times.
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