Copyright (c) 2009 Vin DiCarlo
I'm a failure for psychology articles. I actually think
most psychology theories are useless and misleading.
There's a term for this - "junk psychology" or "pop
psychology."
But there's something to learn in everything you encounter.
So I am always curious to read about new findings,
especially ones related to pickup.
I recently read an article that looked at how generous guys
are when in a romantic state of mind. Basically, it went
like this:
Random people were approached on the street and asked to
think of a) a favorite piece of music, or b) a romantic
encounter they had or would like to have.
Then, as they walked on, someone else approached the person
and asked for money for a train ticket.
The males who were told to adopt a romantic focus became
much more generous than those who were told to think about
music.
For women, generosity was initially high (in the control
group) and stayed about the same regardless of the
independent variable (what to think about).
I'm sure you can relate to this. If you leave your house
after having a "hook-up", you are in a great mood and will
most likely give some change to a bum if you have it.
If you are on a date with a woman and you like her, you
will most likely start shelling out money just to keep her
happy.
But I have to say, thinking about this pissed me off.
Men are workers, earners. We like to use our minds and
bodies to support ourselves and bring home the bacon. It
just feels good as a man!
But it gets taken for granted, doesn't it.
I'm sure you've already dated a woman with not really great
in personality, but was maybe cute.
But you convinced yourself you liked her, and probably even
found yourself laughing at her dumb jokes and telling her
you liked her crappy taste in music.
And you spent money. And spent more money...
Only to get a mere goodnight kiss, if that.
And then came the anger. You WORKED for that money. And
what'd she do to get it from you?
She stood there and looked cute.
She did NOTHING to deserve all that money.
And this is what makes it worse?
She probably went back to her apartment and called some guy
to bang her out.
Yes I'm serious about that. You REALLY have NO IDEA what
women are - it's a whole different world...and sometimes I
wish I was still ignorant because it can be very hard to
not be jaded knowing what I know.
But I know there are good girls out there. I'm dating one
right now!
How do I know this?
It took a while to get where I am. I notice little cues.
Like for instance, if you're woman isn't paying for dinner
on a REGULAR BASIS, she isn't totally devoted to you.
There's another guy if she puts other things ahead of
calling you back.
And if she isn't initiating intimately with you, it's
probably because you don't turn her on as much as other
guys - you aren't DOMINANT enough.
And here's where the confusion begins. And the depression.
Guys are told the WRONG WAY to be dominant, and they shoot
themselves in the foot. They try to put on a front and act
a certain way.
But here's the thing - if you are acting, if you are TRYING
on different level - you aren't dominant.
And women can smell it.
Once you understand dominance, women will naturally WANT TO
GIVE TO YOU, and you can be that lazy guy who doesn't give
a damn and expects women to wait on him hand and foot.
Or you can have a great, loving, mutual relationship.
Or something in-between.
One of the best ways to start this is by dating the RIGHT
WAY.
Most guys chase and chase and look needy. When the girl
finally agrees to meet-up, the frame is set: she is the
prize and you better get that wallet out, big boy!
Don't let this happen to you - you don't deserve that.
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