Is Your Spouse Cheating? 7 Reasons To Ask

So, what has your spouse been up to? Can you trust him /
her to be where he / she said he / she would be? These
signs will help you decide if the devil is loose in your
blue heaven.

1. Going to the gym are we? Hey, we all want a tight 6
pack. Okay, we ladies, not so much. But, if Mr. Couch
Potato is suddenly trying to look like he is only one
degree from Kevin Bacon, he might be up to some mischief.
In all fairness, if you and he have both made resolutions
to get rid of the love handles, he may be as pure as the
driven snow. But, if his interest in his physique is
sudden, and you and he haven't so much as mentioned the
subject to each other, it could be a sign of extra-marital
inspiration.

2. Has the old sex drive taken a hit? If you used to go at
it like bunnies, and he / she suddenly doesn't want it as
often, or at all, it may not be the drive, but the new
driver. If he / she isn't willing to talk about the change
of attitude, you might do well to be suspicious. Suggest
that he / she see a doctor to eliminate any physical reason
for the sudden change. If he / she is unwilling to go, he /
she may already know what the problem is.

3. It doesn't take 4 hours to buy a loaf of bread, and said
loaf is not a purchase in need of emergency attention. If
your spouse invents mysterious errands, and takes forever
to do them, he / she may come back with the thing he / she
was supposed to get, but he / she may be out getting some
wild honey for him / herself.

4. Do you still talk? If he / she has found someone new,
chances are he / she is all talked out when he / she gets
home. If he / she seems distant and disinterested and he /
she used to be a regular magpie, he / she may be blowing
off steam on another boat. Suggest marriage counseling.
If he / she isn't interested, you may want to reconsider
what is going on in your relationship. 5. If he / she
doesn't want to do things with you, but still wants to go
out a lot, you may have a problem. We all need occasional
nights out with our friends and without our significant
others. This is normal. He may want to play poker with
his buddies or she may want to go shopping with her pals.
But if he / she suddenly wants to do a lot, and never with
you along, he / she may have found another playmate.

6. Not as much fighting? Before you breathe a sigh of
relief that he / she no longer finds your little quirks
annoying, and doesn't seem to give a flying --- what you
do, think affair. After all, unless he / she has joined a
new religion, or has otherwise turned over a new leaf, he /
she could just no longer care what you do because he /
she has someone new whose faults are more interesting.

7. Has he / she gotten secretive? You don't have to know
every move he / she makes. However, if he / she suddenly
spends more time on the Internet then Bill Gates, has
treated him / herself to a new cell phone or email account,
or acts like he / she has more secrets then Hillary
Clinton, he / she may be hiding someone he / she would
rather you not meet.

Some marriages survive an affair. The couple can even
learn things about each other that can make their bond
stronger. However, they can accomplish the same things by
doing more together, and at a lot less risk to their
relationship. In the end, if your spouse is cheating, you
have to decide whether you can ever regain the trust that
made you marry him / her in the first place. A counselor
can help you sort through your feelings. If your spouse
isn't willing to go, do it by yourself. There is no reason
for you to handle your spouse's betrayal of your marriage
on your own.

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