When a victim leaves a battering relationship and moves out
OR speaks out, is she safe? Not necessarily so. Statistics
show she is more often at greater risk after she leaves.
Far too often we hear about battered women falling through
the cracks of the system on their way out of an abusive
relationship. Many losing their civil liberties, their
parental rights and/or their sanity in route to safety. Or,
as those who live this know, as a price for peace.
Why these injustices to battered women?
When the abused reaches out beyond the battering
relationship, the dynamic remains in tact but the weapons
change. It may go from words, to fists, to riffle, to court
agent, to court order for psychiatric testing, to a 30-day
in-house psychiatric "evaluation."
The perpetrator has not changed even though the victim
reaches out. And the dynamic of abuse doesn't go away on
its own. If anything, it magnifies.
When the victim reaches out or moves out beyond the
relationship, violence will escalate so as to re-engage
control. While violence is a manifestation of domestic
abuse; domestic abuse is fundamentally about control. And
the perpetrator can't bear to be out of control.
Now given the fact that domestic violence is generally
considered a legal matter, who do you think will be brought
in to intervene? If you're thinking the "blue," you're
right.
Where this gets messy is when the perpetrator has the
financial and/or political wherewithal to enlist support
from or through the system. And this is not to say that
perpetrator/system alliances always develop. Abusers can
certainly be brought to justice via the system.
However, in the shuffle to administer justice, the
perpetrator will most likely use any available financial or
political clout to acquire a club of a higher order: the
system and its agents.
What typically happens, even in cases having the appearance
of being above board (to the law...without corruption), is
that the victim is coerced into agreeing to psychiatric
foreplay designed to ultimately discredit the victim,
silence the abuse and save face for the perpetrator.
This is why an estimated 95% of domestic abuse survivors
end up with psychiatric labels in route to safety from
domestic violence. This is why many battered women have
been parked in psychiatric hospitals at the bequest of
their perpetrators. This is where the myth that she is
crazy is solidified as public truth.
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If you are a victim of domestic violence and wish to end
the cycle of abuse, you will want to read the Legal
Domestic Abuse eBook before the control is maintained by
means outside of your home. Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D., helps
people recognize, end and heal from domestic abuse at home
and in court. Copyright 2009 Jeanne King, Ph.D.
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