Ther is a definite need to build a communication bridge
over the waters of men and women in a world where listening
is a lost art. "How do I talk so men will listen?"
Most women will nod affirminitivly when asked if they have
ever seen a colleague take credit for their idea, or of
being emotional, taken jokes to personally or being
frequently interrupted.
The question then is how to talk so men will listen, all
part of bridging the communication waters between men and
women.
Men and women communicate differently, in ingrained styles
they learned from birth and have become deeply embedded in
the workplace. Bottom line men and women communicate but
they do it differently
There is more than one way to communicate and something
called "code switching" a system of using knowledge of more
than one culture and language to communicate.
It could be thought of as a travel guide to a foreign
country or culture. The differences in men's and women's
styles often create a persistent "credibility gap" where
women are credited with less authority and power than men.
Women are consistent and this has not changed over the
years in that their biggest complaint for over 30 years and
comes from all levels and professions is the question "How
can I get men to take me seriously?" Thus the theme of
bridging the communication waters between women and men.
Change takes time and is not easy even though there are
more women in the work force now that men have lost about
three-quarters of the jobs in the recession. Having more
women in the workplace is not necessarily bringing change.
There are more women in the work place these days, but
don't let that mislead you. A lot of these women are not on
board the bandwagon of equality in the workplace between
men and women and are happy to keep the status quo.
These women do not want to rock the boat and are perfectly
happy to accomodate men at all costs. They have no
assertive skills and really don't even want them.
There certainly are gender differences. Women will
apologize more than men and play the "office mom" role to
whom all confide and offer more subjective opinions.
Men tell more jokes and the women laugh at them. Men want
solutions to problems while women want to understand them,
and men like to play devil's advocate while women want to
help everyone to agree.
Just look at the difference in emails written. Men banter
and write short to-the-point messages, while women share
personal information and express appreciation and support
in longer messages.
Their need to be tools we can learn to help women and men
bridge the gap with steps to take to respond to
interruptions with suggested phrases and body language.
We are not male bashing here, nor is it to be a whining,
bitching session. We are trying to make women more
self-conscious and to "step up to the plate and do
something about it."
There might be a chance to do something together as a
partnership like getting a gym membership and starting a
workout routine together where you can communicate freely
and openly realizing you are both on an equal footing.
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We are trying to say that there is another way we can
communicate and get a point across. Self respect and
respect for the opposite gender can go a long way to
bridging the communication waters between men and women.
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