It has never been a more confusing time for men and knowing
how to date an empowered woman. When the roles reverse and
a woman is more confident or as confident as a man, male
insecurities are inevitable. Men have work to do; we have
to embrace the masculinity that we allowed the modern
feminist movement to emasculate out of us. We have to grow
a pair. That means stepping up our confidence. A confident
woman doesn't want a submissive man; she is secretly hoping
to find a man even more confident than she is!
I was breaking up with a girlfriend a while back and she
stabbed me with a harsh criticism. I wasn't assertive
enough for her. I tend to be pretty laid back about things
and while I saw her point, I also saw how she emasculated
me in her own head. I was new to the city and didn't know
where to go or what to do, so she often chose what we did
together. She told me she wanted me to be bolder about
choosing where we went. The interesting thing was that I
often did that and conveniently those were all the nights
she chose to pass and spend the evening on the couch. Those
were the nights I wish I had decided to go anyway and leave
her sitting on the couch by herself.
When is it okay for a man to be a man? When is a woman too
assertive? The final verdict is going to be different for
everyone. Men need to embrace the strong confident energy
that is masculinity. This includes being sexually forward
and assertive. A strong confident woman wants nothing more
than to have an assertive man in the bedroom. Men love when
an empowered woman enjoys sex and is assertive in the
bedroom, but as soon as that assertiveness leaves the
bedroom men are often intimidated by it.
Men are much simpler than you realize ladies. We know you
pull all the strings, but if you let us think we are in
charge more often we both get what we want. We feel more
dominant and you get to see us confident and assertive. I
know if you tell us to be strong and assertive it defeats
the point, however setting up situations where have to be
more assertive is key. Let us kill the bug in the house;
let us be in charge of the cars and fixing mechanical
objects. Even if you know it will be faster just to call
someone, let us have our moment. Tell us we are in charge
of planning the evening on Friday. Set up situations where
we can be assertive instead of jumping in and doing it
yourself. Give use the opportunity to be assertive and you
will be happier when we are.
Guys, let's step it up a notch. A cardinal sin is if she
asks, "what do you want to do?" and you answer, "I don't
know." Be a man, have a plan, in fact have back up plans.
You need to take the lead. She'll tell you when the plan
sucks or needs to be changed, but if you at least have a
plan, then you are being a man! Here is another tip. When
she cancels on an idea and wants to just stay home, go do
it anyway without her.
Assertiveness and confidence is so incredibly attractive as
long as it doesn't threaten someone else's sense of
self-confidence. You as an empowered woman in a
relationship should not come at the price of an emasculated
man. Leave room for a man to be confident. Set him up to
feel like he is in charge sometimes, we both know who is
really in charge. Guys, time to sack up and stand up for
what you want to do. Stand your ground when women try to
change things about you that you enjoy or things that don't
even affect her. The easiest way to be dominant without
crossing her boundaries is to be assertive about what you
want, but not tell her what she should want or do.
Being a confident man or woman is not about always being
dominant or getting what you want. It is about knowing who
you are and not compromising on the important stuff. Most
of us understand when it's important; the little things are
what cause so much drama. Compromise by letting others win
on the little stuff so you can be assertive on what is
important to you. The most confident leaders know when to
let others lead and empower them to feel strong and
confident. As a confident woman, let men win sometimes, our
ego's are much more fragile. As a man, learn that being
confident and dominant is actually what women appreciate
more.
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