Sweat starts beading up on your forehead. You start
unconsciously clenching your fists in fear. Your feet are
glued to the floor. Only moments ago you were the most
entertaining fun guy in the group. Then it all changed as
their really gorgeous friend comes over and starts talking
to you. You start tripping over your words and you end up
excusing yourself just to save face. "What the hell!" you
think.
It is like this for so many guys I have talked to. They are
quite charming with mildly attractive women but the moment
they talk to a very beautiful woman they clam up and are
unable to do it.
I hate to lay down this fact but as long as beautiful women
intimidate you to the point you can't be yourself, you
won't be successful in dating them. Why? It is about
agenda. Ever notice women you are not interested often fall
for you? It is because you are confidently yourself around
them and have no agenda when you are with them. With a very
beautiful woman she evokes in us this base desire to obtain
her, to HAVE her. This creates a very predator prey
relationship and what does prey do when around a predator?
She runs, and runs fast.
There is a book I recently read called "The Female Brain"
that explains that the part of a woman's brain that sees
and interprets non-verbal signals relating to social
interaction such as body language, tonality, and intent, is
ten times larger than the corresponding part of a man's
brain. Women can sense when you are not being genuine or
when you start having an agenda to HAVE her.
Some experts actually go so far to say that a relationship
where you are extremely attracted to her won't ever work. I
personally feel that is going too far. However they have a
point. The more attracted you are the more agenda you will
have and the less yourself you will be. So what is the
antidote for HWS (Hot Woman Syndrome)?
The antidote is stop putting her up on a pedestal!!! If you
knew she ripped the heads off of small animals in her spare
time would you still be attracted to her? If that doesn't
turn you off then insert any morally repugnant thing she
could do and assume she just might. The fact is you don't
know her. Even after dating her for a while you can't fool
yourself that you know every skeleton in her closet!
Understand you are attracted to her for her looks, but is
that really enough for you? I know I want both an
attractive woman and someone who has a personality I am
attracted to. I don't know if I am attracted to her
personality for quite some time. The problem is most guys
find out the minimum about her and any faults are not
immediately obvious. They then just assume her personality
is up to their standards. Don't assume.
I go into interactions with beautiful women with genuine
interest in who they are, without the assumption that I
want to have any kind of romantic or sexual relationship
with them. I need to get to know them to find out if they
are up to my standards. I treat them the same way I treat a
woman I am not attracted to in an interaction. I am every
bit myself and I don't have an agenda with her. If I find
out more about her that I like then I escalate as I do in
interactions I have with less attractive women. No time do
I put her on a pedestal above me. We are equal, period.
So do whatever you need to do to get rid of your agenda and
stay true to being yourself when you are around an
extremely beautiful woman. Personally I just assume she
might have dismembered puppy heads in her purse. Yes I know
I am a bit weird. It works for me though. I just don't tell
her that.
Not everywoman lives up to my standards, just because she
is really hot doesn't' pre-approve her for anything in my
mind. It shouldn't in your mind either. Take the time to
find out what is interesting about her and appreciate it
just like anyone else. Stay confidently and actively being
yourself.
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