Copious amounts of men around the globe want to know how to
talk to women. They want to know what to say, how to say
it, and when to say it. Most men that I meet in daily life
want to be spoon fed pick up lines or want to know exactly
what to say to women. But a vast majority of men want to
know how to get the ball rolling. They want to learn how
to break the ice and how to build comfort so that the
conversation flows naturally.
In other words, most men want to know how to handle the
initial approaching of a woman and then the first 30
seconds that follows. The number one rule in learning how
to talk to women is follow the principle of mastery: that
is you have to practice and practice and practice. Simply
put, you have to talk to women. In order for you to do
that you first need to learn how to make the initial
approach. There are many schools of thought on how to do
this. In fact, I've seen people develop flow charts and
come up with some very esoteric theories on why their way
is the best. I usually grin at those because you'll never
hear me say mine are the best because the "best" does not
exist.
Human beings and their social interactions contain so many
variables that no one can ever come up with a
paint-by-numbers system that is the "best" and that would
apply to everyone. It just doesn't exist. The second
thing you want to learn is how to break the ice. This past
weekend I approached over 3 dozen women at one of the local
beach piers by simply saying "hey, you have a unique look,
I knew I had to come over and talk to you and see what you
were like."
I had one really cute brunette try and test me by replying
with "oh yeah, what's so unique about me?". I deflected it
by saying it "that's for me to know and for you to find
it". I paused for a couple of seconds then I let out a
alow grin. She knew I was playing around and she followed
suit. Remember, when talking to women it's not so much
what you say, but in how you say it. In other words,
mindset has a lot to do with it. As an example, if you had
a younger sister, would you have any inhibitions in walking
up to her and having a conversation with her? Of course
not! Why? Because she's your bratty little cousin right?
That's what your mind perceives, yet when you see a hot
girl your perception changes. In reality, it should not
change.
Some pick up artists will walk up to girl and tap her on
her shoulder, arm, or even wrist or hand to get their
attention. Hey, whatever works. And you find out what
works by testing in the field. During the first 30 seconds
in most general approaches you want to get the woman's
attention. A simple "hi" or "hey, what's up?" will work
wonders. See, it does not have to fit into some kind of
complicated chart or graph? Then you can you ask them what
they are up to or where they are going or why they have
that "look" on their face. When they ask "what look?" you
can simply reply with "the look that says I'm bored out of
my mind and I'm about to meet a really exciting person!"
You would be amazed at how women respond to things like
this when you are genuine and friendly. Not to be confused
with being overly nice or by acting in any way, shape or
form, that puts her on a pedestal. You should always act
like you are her equal in every way. So during you first
30 seconds, simply say "hi" or "what's up?"then ask her
what she is up to. You will be amazed at how much women
will open up if you give them half the chance. Now go
forth and make at least one approach a day for a week, then
bump it up to two, and continue increasing it until you no
longer have the fear of walking up to a stranger.
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Rod Cortez is a dating coach who overcame his own shyness
and anxiety attacks by utilizing his own personal power and
creating methods for meeting, talking to, and dating
attractive women. His FREE newsletter has helped men in
dozens of countries around the world: http://TheDatePro.com
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