A sad statistic is that over half (51%) of all marriages
end in divorce. So, the questions most couples need to ask
of themselves is how stay focused and learn about saving a
marriage? Many couples ending up asking themselves 'where
did it all go so wrong?' such that over half of the couples
that initially say "I do" sadly end up saying "we can't".
Identifying the point at which it starts to go wrong and
they go back on their promises to stay with each other for
the rest of their lives, is key.
In a marriage you do not go to bed one night with a good
one and wake up the next morning with a failed one. It has
been worked up to slowly and only got there because both
parties ignored the signs of the approach.
If in real estate it is location, location, location; in a
relationship it is communication, communication,
communication. It is not the quantity of what you
communicate but the quality. Even if you partner is yelling
at you in anger and upset they are communicating something.
If nothing else you should be real clear that they are
angry and upset and it is now your job to open the lines of
communication so that you can both get to the cause of the
upset.
Questions about feelings rather than statements about blame
will take you a giant step forward in saving a marriage.
With practice you can learn to share the feelings without
having to get to the anger and upset stages.
Certainly one of the best tips for saving a marriage is to
ensure you always act responsibly. Marriage, or even any
relationship, is not a 50/50 proposition with each person
taking fifty per cent of the responsibility. If you want
your marriage to work you need to take one hundred per cent
of it. If your vows stated for better or for worse the
worse part will be approached when your mate is taking no
responsibility.
That is when you get to shoulder it all. And before you get
on your high horse there will be just as many times when
you abrogate your responsibilities and your spouse will be
picking up the slack. Just do not try to keep score.
Realize that you want your marriage to work and you get to
make it do that.
When you entered your marriage you did so because you
wanted it to work. You made a commitment to yourself and to
your spouse to make it work. Each day try to remind
yourself what those specific commitments were, then ask
what you are doing each day to live up to them. Do not
worry if your spouse is not. Your living up for them will
create a loving space that will make it safe for them to
get in touch with why they married you. When you have
created that space you will no longer have to what's
required for saving a marriage because you will know you
have the answer.
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