Dating Improvisation

There's a myth that say's a man needs to be interesting to
attract a girl.You even hear girls espousing this garbage
themselves.

If you ask a girl of what she would like to hear from a guy
as an approach, they say things like, "something
interesting" or "I like a man that have a sense of humor,"
or "be unique, don't just say what all the other guys say."

OK sweetheart, I'll do my best to be as interesting, funny,
and unique as possible, all at the same time.

I'll even take a survey from every other guy to find out
what they've said, so that I know what not to say.

Yeah, that's sarcasm.

Here's the thing - I don't have any anger at women's
opinions. Who wouldn't want to be approached with a good
joke or interesting comment?

The problem is in the question itself, or rather the ASKING
of that question.

You see, the focus that spawned that question is the same
focus that prevents a guy from being funny, interesting, or
unique.

If you know something about improvisation comedy, you will
know that as you TRY to be interesting, funny or unique,
you will probably say something boring, lame, and typical.

One of the fundamental rules of improve is to allow
yourself to be boring, stupid, silly.

This frees up your mind to think creatively - it's like
your mind is only creative when the pressure is off. When
your thoughts are filled with expectations, there's no room
for new ideas!

Having a successful socializing can be learn a lot by
studying the principles of improv-comedy. In fact there's a
man out there who's built his entire pickup coaching career
using the rules of improve-comedy.

He's one of the more well-known guys in this business, and
for good reason!

The more attractive than premeditated is always being
natural behavior and being spontaneous.

But simply improvising approach after approach is not the
best thing either.

At some point, you need to start connecting the dots,
putting the pieces together, and seeming the commonalities
that arise in each interaction.

That's why I have structured natural game to teach.

You see, a guy needs an element of structure, and a goal,
otherwise he starts spinning in circles and ultimately
shuts down.

This is why men have so much trouble staying in
conversations with women. They can't figure out the point
of the whole thing, the goal, and they don't have a
framework within which to work.

Let me give you an example.

If are commissioned to draw a picture, without any rules or
limits, you will be stumped.

"Draw us a nice picture." Sounds easy enough...until you
put the pencil to the paper. What to draw?

Every idea you have seems clichéd and boring.

how about if you were given a structure which to create?

"Using only shades of blue and green, draw something that
must fit these dimensions. Also, it should give the viewer
a sense of calm. Beyond that, use your imagination."

Ah, now we have something to work with - a starting point
as it were.

See, I know how guys think. That's the reason why my Drills
Bootcamp is so successful, and gets such dramatic results
in my clients.

Pickup is not a stage without rules, without limits,
without a purpose and structure.

But it's also not a scripted play, the same performance
every time.

Pickup has principles and dynamics necessary for success.

Women are attracted to certain traits, and respond with
some level of consistency to certain behaviors.

You can do this with your natural personality - the way you
fill in a coloring book with YOUR COLORS.

There is an infinite amount of creativity possible in
pickup, simply because there are basic principles you must
satisfy.

The good news is, you are already built to satisfy women's
needs, and to learn how to maximize your odds.

You've been taught to NOT do these things.

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