How to Get a Girlfriend

Does being introverted hinders you from having a girlfriend?

I have to admit, I'm not the most outgoing guy in the world.

And for a long time it held me back.

Most of the men that come to me for training are in similar
way - it's kind of a thing that can't be spoken of guys
studying pickup all share.

Guys who are naturally outgoing and social naturally meet a
lot of women and typically have decent dating lives.

It's actually quite rare that a guy like this ends up in
one of my workshops, because extroverted guys don't suffer
enough to have the motivation for change.

They meet women, at least occassionally, and usually have
girlfriend, or meet enough women to keep them reasonably
satisfied intimately.

Some of us are just born introverts, and it can be really
tough because that usually means struggling to meet women.

Before I go on I want to make a couple points about the
concept of introversion/extroversion, and what's normal.

I think most people who come across as extroverts are not
quite as extroverted and social as they'd have you believe.

In fact, I think that extroversion is really about the
person VALUING being social, rather than actually BEING
social.

Let me explain...

If you think it's cool to have tons of friends and have a
lot of people around you and know you, then you will want
to present that image to others.

If you are an introvert, you don't care because you value
other things like thinking, learning, and more
solo-oriented activities like art or video games.

But here's the thing - introversion and extroversion are
just outward expressions of an inner value.

They are literally scientific constructs.

In reality, it's all gray area: one guy can be really
interested in people and have an extensive social network,
but outwardly, he's very quiet and tends to be neurotic and
analytical.

So is he an extrovert or introvert?

Another thing a guy might think that people think he is a
loser if he doesn't seem to have a lot of friends.

So he arranges to have a bunch of acquaintances meet up at
a local pub for drinks, even though he'd rather stay home
and read a book.

So is he extroverted or introverted?

For the moment, let's move away from this concept.

Let me ask you a question...

What do you want with women?

Do you want a connection?

Intimacy?

Multiple girlfriends?

One special girl for possibly marriage?

Whatever your answer, I'm going to tell you right now...

You CAN have it!

Now this may seem hard to believe if you are a
self-described "introvert."

If you enjoy solo activities and tend to spend a lot of
time in your head, you may think you are an introvert.

Heck - maybe you are!

But who cares?

I come from an academic background, and my trainer and
Attraction Code co-author Brian studied social psychology
in college.

And we both come to that same situation - that most
psychological constructs, or "personality types" are
bullshit.

First of all, humans are extremely adaptable - we are like
water, and can change if we put our will behind our
intention for change.

Secondly, you can't gain the essence of a dynamic, living
breathing person with words.

Society LOVES to label people.

It makes things easier - why get to know a person when you
can just put them in a box and not think about it anymore?!

I don't mean to sound bitter...it's just that for most of
my life, I was told that I was introverted and shy.

SHY.

I'm DEFINITELY not shy.

I'm just quiet.

There's a BIG DIFFERENCE.

I'm not afraid to speak...I just prefer peace and calmness.

I'm not unhappy...I'm just thinking about how things work.

For a long time, I BELIEVED what OTHER PEOPLE told me about
MYSELF.

Think about that - OTHER PEOPLE, telling ME, about ME!

How absurd.

And by believing that I was shy and introverted, my self
image was NOT that of an attractive guy - the kind of guy
women like.

I assumed that I was awkward and that women saw me as a
quiet nerd.

Guess what?

Girls think of themselves like that too...and no I don't
mean actual nerdy girls.

I mean BEAUTIFUL WOMEN.

Anyways, that's beside the point.

It was only after I forced myself out of my comfort zone
and approached tons and tons of women that I realized that

a) women don't think I'm weird and nerdy

and

b) it doesn't even matter

Because you know what?

NERDY GUYS, Quiet guys, smart guys, can attract women too!

I know a lot of other guys that do it and I know because I
do it as well.

You see, if you label yourself an introvert, the only
barrier holding you back is the label itself...and the
image attached to it.

I know picture myself as a smart, quiet, smooth guy.

I don't walk into a place and befriend everybody.

I got in, relax, and go with the vibe, and pick my girl.

And I slide right in there...

If you are a quiet guy, and you'd rather be thinking than
talking, there is NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT.

You just have to adapt, and figure out a way to meet women
despite the fact that you don't like to spend a lot of time
socializing.

Like I said, almost all of my students are like this.

So we have designed the Drills Workshop FOR guys like this.

If you're thinking - "oh I'm too
quiet/shy/reserved/introverted" to go out and meet women,
stop right now.

Just because you don't feel like chit chatting all day and
all night doesn't mean you shouldn't have amazing women in
your life.

You deserve the women you want.

Stop letting OTHERS tell you what you can have.

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