Dominance and Focus As A Source of Success

Don't worry - I'm not going to have a political discussion
here. My political views would probably be considered very
weird anyway.

But I have to say, I've been really entertained by the
Presidential Debates.

You see, I tend to view everything through the lens of a
social scientist. I'm always analyzing the subtle dynamics
in social interactions.

And the recent presidential debates have been, as always, a
clinic in social dominance.

What most people fail to understand is that the content of
each candidate's message is pretty insignificant compared
to his non-verbal communication.

The candidates that tend to fare well are often the most
dominant in their mannerisms.

But these mannerisms are not what you'd think -
counter-intuitive, and communicates directly with your
subconscious is what conveys dominance.

You see, as the candidate talks, your conscious mind is
listening to his WORDS.

But your unconscious mind is watching the WHOLE of his
OUTPUT, or as we call it in the Attraction Code,
"Expression."

Your subconscious is concerned with some basic questions:

"Does he believe what he is saying?"

"Is he used to people submitting to him and getting his
way?"

"Is his intention selfish or altruistic?"

"Is he calm and happy, or depressed - is life defeating
him, or is he dominant and in control of his situation?"

The interesting thing is that the guy who's coming with the
most anger, the most attacks, and the "tough war veteran"
attitude is actually NOT the most dominant of the two
candidates.

Obviously I'm referring about McCain.

Now all political persuasions aside, let's look at the
clear winner in each debate in terms of social dominance
(which is the real competition between these two guys).

From the debates, I have this favorite quote of Obama - I
try to instill in my students the kind of dominant focus.

When he was asked about personally attacked as a terrorist
at McCain/Palin rallies, Obama replied, "I don't mind being
attacked for the next three weeks. What the American people
can't afford is four more years of failed economic
policies. When people suggest that I pal around with
terrorists, then we are not talking about issues."

Wow. This is powerful stuff, and I'll explain why.

There's a lot going on here, but for clarity, I'm going to
break down Obama's mindset in three categories:

1. Emotional stillness
2. Strong, unwavering focus
3. High-road ethos

If you've been following the debates, and each party's
campaign, you'll agree that Obama is super-cool.

He never comes undone, never gets upset. He's either calm
and attentive, happy and lighthearted, or determined and
assertive.

But he's never angry, defensive, annoyed, or flustered in
any way.

And I don't think he's faking. From my trained eye, this
guy is for real.

He has his emotional state completely under control. As we
say in the Attraction Code, he is

SELF-CONTROLLED.

And this stems from having a STRONG, UNWAVERING FOCUS. In
the quote, you can see how Obama's focus is never swayed or
distracted.

His mind is filled only with his primary concern - becoming
the President, so that he can use his policies to improve
the lives of Americans.

Now the question of whose policies are better is not my
concern here. You can make an argument for both candidates.

The difference between the candidates is that Obama cannot
be distracted from his message, while McCain, in several
instances gets caught defending himself, and attacking
Obama.

Obama just coolly repeats his message, and his basic
argument that McCain's policies will resemble those of
George W. Bush.

Look at the quote. He could have easily criticized those at
the rally for being racist or ignorant.

But that's not the point, and he knows it. The debates are
not about who said what at some rally.

The debates are about who will run the country for the next
four years.

Instead of ridiculing the McCain camp for allowing such
ignorant behavior, he instead brings the focus back to the
purpose of the debate.

"When people suggest that I pal around with terrorists,
then we are not talking about issues." He transitions this
distractive focus right back to what we should be paying
attention to. And he does this, I think, because he WANTS
to focus on the real issues, because he believes MORE
STRONGLY in his plan than McCain does.

If you look at the history of each party's campaign,
McCain's camp has changed their slogan, their message, and
their policies several times in an attempt to keep pace
with Obama.

Now I don't know if Obama is just operating on a higher
intellectual plane than McCain, or if he has a better
staff, but this guy's campaign has been flawless and
powerful since day one.

And that tells me a lot about what kind of administration
he will have if elected.

I'm still not sure if his policies will help or hurt my
business, but the level of organization and integrity he
exacts from his team can only help our country.

Even their image branding - the flag of American re-worked
as a sunrise on the horizon - beautiful.

Lastly, Obama's primary intention relies on a strong
inner-map of values.

We go over this extensively in or Drills Workshops, helping
our students clarify and enact their core values so they
have a strong foundation for social situations.

A man can only stand strong if he knows what he stands for.
The problem is most guys don't actually know what they
stand for.

Obama has a very clear set of ethics based on his core
values. He knows what is important to him, and he doesn't
compromise that.

He values certain policies, but overall, he values helping
the lower and middle class improve the quality of their
lives.

On the other hand, McCain probably puts the success of
large and mid-sized businesses first, as he feels this will
eventually create more jobs.

But the difference on how McCain defends his opinion
compared to Obama. And the difference is sub-communicated
with body language, eye contact, vocal tonality, and
overall emotional state.

Obama puts his values first and foremost in his mind. He
doesn't allow his energies to be sucked into the games of
negative politics.

He plays his game and he plays it well. He focuses only on
what he feels is important, and doesn't get emotionally
upset when others act hostile or try to distract him from
his focus.

This is dominance personified.

I happen to be in the business of cultivating this dominant
personality in men.

I've made a career out of helping guys achieve their
highest potential when it comes to women, and social
dominance is a HUGE part of this.

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