How you See Yourself can Affect your Success with Women

Are you trapped in a feedback loop?

Understood/Affinity - I'm a neurotic nerdy loser like you.
It can be really tough starting from nothing.

What I mean is, if you haven't been very successful with
women in the past, it's really hard getting the ball
rolling.

I've come to realize that a big part of success is
momentum. It's like the snowball effect.

Success often is built on success, importantly when it
comes to beliefs.

I used to have HORRIBLE beliefs when it came to women. And
it's something I see in just about every student that comes
to me.

Bad beliefs don't just happen overnight.

What kind of beliefs do you have about women?

If you're not aware of your beliefs, what goes through your
mind before you approach a woman?

If you think things like "oh she'd never go for me," or "oh
she's out of my league," then you have bad beliefs about
women, or more accurately, YOURSELF.

You see, success with women isn't really about women, it's
about YOU.

How you see yourself also affects how women see you. So if
you have a bad belief, that means you have a poor
self-image.

And it's that image that is projected to the woman.

The strange thing about beliefs is that they reinforce
themselves. When you talk to women that you think they
didn't like you, you will just come off insecure, and they
WILL NEVER REALLY LIKE YOU.

This strengthens what your belief is.

So how do you get rid of this rut?

Well first you must understand how beliefs are formed.
They usually don't come directly from what they are about.

Let me explain. Your bad beliefs about how women perceive
you didn't BEGIN with actual women.

Your ideas about women most likely came from the other boys
in class, or from the culture or your parents.

You were taught that women don't like getting intimate, and
that women require some elusive trait in order to like a
guy.

Now we get "bad" messages all the time. It's just a fact of
life that many people out there don't want the best for you.

But the problem with your social/dating beliefs is that
they won't go away - they'll only get worse, unless you
short-circuit the whole process.

You don't need to have any specific belief in order to put
it into action. You can have bad beliefs and still have
success.

Ultimately, what will happen is that you will form new
mental habits, which are the same as beliefs.

Guys who are naturally good with women are few and far
between, but they all have one thing in common:

They have POWERFUL beliefs about women. They assume that
women are attracted to them. They believe that women like
getting in bed. They believe that they deserve the best
women out there.

If you're a good, intelligent guy, there's no reason why
you shouldn't have lots of options in the dating department.

The most attractive women shouldn't be off limits to you.

Men who were lucky enough to start good feedback loops at a
young age don't necessarily deserve the best women. They
are just lucky.

You should have the same opportunities.

I know I had to make that opportunity for myself, and it
was HARD.

You can be you, AND have great women in your life.

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