If you like the woman you are going on a date with and want
to get to know her better then the ultimate goal in the
first date will be to gain a second date. Not the easiest
thing to do as you will both be nervous and wary of what
you do and say. I wish I could say that there is a rule of
thumb for such situations whereby if you do certain things
you will get a certain result. This is not the case. You do
have to be yourself just don't be over the top with
anything. Subtlety is the key.
It doesn't matter who you are and what you do, if you turn
up to your date late you are looking for trouble. Not only
will you already be nervous you will also feel
uncomfortable for keeping your date waiting. Your date may
not mind this but you could find she is incredibly offended
by this gesture or even won't hang around to get to know
you. It is a sign of respect to show up for your date early
as to not keep them waiting. However, if she is late try
not to over react. If you really can't tolerate lateness
then keep quiet this time and see if it happens again. If
you say anything both of you will be on edge during the
date and can make for an uncomfortable atmosphere.
Some guys like to make a big impression and will bring a
gift for the first date which is a nice gesture. This could
backfire though so take heed as she may not like the gift
or may not find it appropriate, after all you don't know
each other very well so you may not make the right choice.
All women love to be treated like a queen and this does not
mean spending thousands of pounds on her, it just means
being chivalrous. Open doors for her, pull out her chair,
walk on the curb side of the pavement and give her your
coat when you are walking outside. This is a sure fire way
to make a woman want to spend more time with you. Don't
just be courteous to her because she will notice how you
treat other people. Opening the door for her and then
letting it slam shut on the next person is not wise so pay
attention. Remember your 'please' and 'thanks' when
speaking to anyone from taxi drivers to waiters. You will
score big points and it will not go unnoticed.
If you asked the girl for a meal then you should be
expecting to pay, there are a few exceptions to this for
instance if she wants to take you out then it could be her
obligation. If she doesn't want to pay after asking you out
then she was probably just looking for an evening out with
a free meal. When the bill arrives say you are happy to
settle it and only if she objects to you paying for her
share let her half it. Do not let her pay for the whole
meal and pay your half in full. Also tipping the waiters is
a good idea as it shows you are not too stingy.
The thing to remember is too listen intently and show
interest. Try to keep the conversation about her as
everyone loves to be the centre of attention. Don't neglect
to talk about yourself if she is asking you a question,
just don't turn the evening into a show all about you. If
you make conversation in the later stages of a date about
what she was saying earlier then you will not fail to
impress as it shows you were paying attention.
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The author of this article is a writer for Intros UK,
established since 1991 and are one of the UK's largest and
most successful personal dating & introduction agency.
http://www.introsuk.co.uk/
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