The way to make yourself feel uncomfortable is by trying to
chat up a girl using a line that you heard from someone
else that sounds funny to them but to many girls would be
distasteful. It is a completely unnatural thing to do and a
simple hello will work just as well if not better. So just
calm down and take a breath.
Opening Line
The most important thing is realising if a girl wants you
to approach her. It will not make a difference how good an
opening line you have if you start to talk to a girl that
doesn't want to know you. Not only is it bad for your
confidence, other girls in the bar will notice you going up
to girls and getting rejected. Trust me, they will notice
and it is not an impressive sign. You could alienate your
chances of getting to know any girl in the bar if you are
constantly getting rejected.
Don't Send Out The Wrong Signals - Be Relaxed
Before you start thinking about the girls signals that she
is sending out, look at yours. You need to be open, smiley
and looking comfortable. If you don't then you will be
sending out bad signals and girls won't even start to think
about getting to know you. Don't overstate your actions
either, just stay relaxed and keep yourself from bunching
up and crossing your arms. This is a defensive posture and
will not help you look like you know what you are doing.
Maintain Eye Contact & Smile
If you do make eye-contact with any girls that you like
then make sure you flash your pearly whites and let her
know that you are smiling at her. She will love this and
more often than not you will get a smile back. This is
always a good start; just remember that she may be moving
around so if she is walking near you then try to let her
see you checking her out. Don't make any dirty gestures or
overstated looks that make her feel like a piece of meat.
Just let her know you like what you see.
Be Natural
When you have started to look natural with your approach
and your smile, you can start to think about what signals
she is sending back to you. Glancing looks don't hold much
promise unless they are backed up with a genuine smile and
an intent gaze. Think about where you are sitting because
if she is sitting almost opposite you then you are
naturally going to catch the odd glance at each other. To
check to see if it is worth approaching a girl when you do
glance at each other hold the gaze and smile at her. If she
gives you a warm response and holds the eye-contact briefly
then you know you are onto a winner. When she doesn't smile
or looks away quickly don't give her another thought. She
just isn't interested for whatever reason.
Finally
You will find that when you start to master your body
language you will increase the chances of a girl wanting to
get to know you greatly. When you find girls that are not
going to bat you away the conversation will be more free
flowing and won't feel uncomfortable.
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The author of this article is a writer for Intros UK,
established since 1991 and are one of the UK's largest and
most successful personal dating & introduction agencies.
http://www.introsuk.co.uk
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