Some people get very anxious when they try to make new
friends. Meeting new people for the first time and trying
to develop new friendships can be very stressful if you are
shy or not outgoing. Here are some suggestions on how you
can make new friends without getting anxious and fearful.
The most important thing is to be yourself. Do not pretend
to be someone you are not because it will eventually catch
up to you. Even if you are not the most popular person,
being yourself will go a long way. You want your potential
friends to be your friend for who you are and not for what
you have or do not have.
Find people of similar interests to help increase your
chances of making friends. Go join the local golf club if
you like to golf or go to the gym if you like to exercise.
Meeting people with similar interests will make it easier
to make friends because you will both have something in
common. It will also make it easy to start a conversation
with someone.
To help reduce your fear or anxiety of making new friends,
use good judgement in who you associate with. Try to use
commonsense in who your companions are. If you are a person
who is looking for someone who is involved in the church,
you will most likely not find that person if you go to the
bars.
In order to have a friend, you got to be a friend. Be
outgoing and considerate when you are around people. Do not
rush or force a friendship. Just be friendly to everyone
and eventually you will find someone who will want to be
your friend.
Sometimes we get stressed out when everything happens all
at once. When this happens, a person should take a deep
breath and try to find something to do for a few minutes to
get their mind off of the problem. A person could get some
fresh air, listen to some music, or do an activity that
will give them a fresh perspective on things.
Take advantage of the help that is available around you. If
possible, talk to a professional who can help you manage
your depression and anxieties. They will be able to provide
you with additional advice and insights on how to deal with
your current problem. By talking to a professional, a
person will be helping themselves in the long run because
they will become better able to deal with their problems in
the future. Remember that it never hurts to ask for help.
Making friends can be stressful if you are shy or not
outgoing. Just be yourself and go out and do something you
like to do. Eventually you will find someone who has
similar interests. If you still have trouble then talk to a
professional who can give you more tips.
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Stan Popovich is the author of "A Layman's Guide to
Managing Fear Using Psychology, Christianity and Non
Resistant Methods" - an easy to read book that presents a
general overview of techniques that are effective in
managing persistent fears and anxieties. For additional
information go to: http://www.managingfear.com/
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