This article hopes to give you some tips on what to look
for to make a sensible decision if a date is not going
well. We give away subtle body language all the time and
you can use these cues as the date progresses to see how
things are going
You will have had some interaction prior to the date unless
this is a blind date so there must have been some chemistry
at work to get you to this point. However once the date is
under way you will both be testing that initial connection
to see if it is a reality. How the date is going for your
partner will be evident in subtle aspects of their
behavior. In the early stages of the date you need to be
careful not to jump to the conclusion that something is not
right because it could all be down to the nerves of either
or both of you. There are a few things you can do to
measure this so you don't make any hasty decisions.
Ask yourself, and be honest, whether or not you feel
relaxed. If you are tense, even if you are not obviously
exhibiting signs of stress, your date will definitely be
picking it up at a sub-conscious level. It will also likely
be preventing your true personality to come through and the
difficulty with this is that you will be aware of this and
will likely get tenser. Escaping to the bathroom for a few
minutes to breathe deeply is a great way to help you relax.
You can then return and be more objective about whether
your tension was due to nerves or the fact that you really
don't want to be on this date. This is also true of your
date. Showing an interest in someone is a great way to make
them feel less tense and at ease. Do this until you sense
them relaxing or until they themselves take a time out in
the bathroom.
Another thing that can inadvertently cause one of you to
seize up is a throw away remark that causes offense that
the other party never really recovers from. Such a remark
may be made because one of you is just very nervous but it
has the effect of throwing the date into a irrecoverable
tail spin. If this happens at the start of the date, give
them the benefit of the doubt and put it down to nerves. It
is all too easy to write off the whole evening from a
single careless comment like this so just let it wash over
you and see how things progress a little before pulling the
plug.
The key to all this is to not let things that are actually
pretty trivial cause you to write off the date before you
have properly got to know the other person. In the initial
stages, this could well be down to nerves and you should be
prepared for this and make allowances. There will plenty of
opportunities later on in the date for you to determine if
the person sitting across from you is worth giving further
consideration to.
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Patrick has been writing about relationships for several
years. His latest passion however is storm door hardware
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